Types Of Men You Should Never Date
1. The Control Freak
Many women have had their lives turned upside down by a control
freak. He has an overwhelming desire to control every detail,
even when
it’s out of his hands—be it the weather, traffic or your life. True,
women like a guy that is manly, but manly isn’t the same as domineering.
Before you know it, you soon start to lose your identity and become a
creation of his. That isn’t love; it’s a dysfunction and you need to
believe it.
2. The Abuser
A control freak will almost always become an abuser, but not all
abusers start out as control freaks. In fact, abusers are usually nice
guys until their anger kicks in. How many times have we heard an abused
woman say, “He’s not like that o. It’s only when he’s angry that he
lashes out”? If a guy belittles you, tells you you’re worthless, or
insults you, that is abuse. If he forces you to do things you’re not
comfortable with, that’s abuse. It may initially look like a temper
issue, but physical abuse soon follows, and no woman deserves that. Do
not date an abusive man—no matter how alternately nice he is.
3. The Man-child
He doesn’t have to be younger that you are as many women assume that
men younger than them are automatically immature. He could be much older
but his brain is stuck in adolescence, thinking like a 13-year-old and
always craving your validation. Being in a relationship with this man
will always leave you drained, because it’s feels like you’re raising a
child.
4. The Ghost.
You see him only when he wants to be seen. One minute he’s doting on
you and everything’s peach; the next, poof! He vanishes and you can’t
reach him by phone, text, BBM, mail, tweet— nothing! He’s not dead; he
simply does not want to be reached. This is 2012—there’s a way to stay
in touch if you want to. Forget his elaborate explanation when he does
reappear, all na wash. He definitely has another life that he doesn’t
want you to be part of.
5. The Unambitious.
If a guy cannot say what his goal in life is, strike his name off the
list. Waiting for his grandfather’s will is not an ambition, neither is
playing the visa lottery every year. The country is hard, but that
doesn’t mean we cannot have workable dreams, no matter how nascent.
6. Mr Chop my money.
All he has is money. Not character, finesse, values or even an
education. Just money. Unfortunately as women very well know, money
isn’t everything; this guy can buy you fine things but he can’t treat
you with sensitivity. Being with him will cause you to live a life of
quiet desperation.
7. The Fairy-tale prince.
Everything you ever prayed for, even things thatyou know yourself are
unrealistic; this guy has it all. He’s handsome caring, attentive,
charming, well dressed, tasteful, generous—in short, he’s flawless. You
feel he’s too good to be true and he probably is. All men have flaws,
but this man doesn’t have any? It’s all an act. Once he’s had his fill
of you, the charade stops and you see his true self. To him it’s a game
and he enjoys the thrill of the chase, the delightful deceit and the
abrupt end. Nobody said men were emotional creatures but some do and
relish the chance to practise their adroitness.
8. The Guy who just doesn’t want you.
There are guys whom you like and no matter how you try, they simply
don’t want YOU. They could be taken, gay or blind. Rejection hurts, but
it’s part of life. Move on. While you still have your dignity, in God’s
name, move on.
Monday, 8 December 2014
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